Wise words from the ladies of rap’s golden era.
"Let's Talk About Sex," Salt-N-Pepa
"Let's talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be."
Salt-N-Pepa were serious trailblazers when they encouraged honest conversations about sex back in 1991. Fulfilling relationships thrive on good communication in and out of the bedroom. Your partner can't read your mind, so it's important to maintain a healthy dialogue where both can express feelings and share desires with one another. And really, when you have that, the only way is up.
"You & Me & Everyone We Know," Jean Grae
"I think too much. Overanalyzing everything sucks."
Word! It's super easy to read too much into everything when feelings are at stake. But dwelling often causes headaches.
If you've ever found yourself analysing texts with friends and driving yourself a little too crazy, learn from Jean Greasy and try to get a handle on those thoughts. Do something to take your mind off of your relationship – get outside, exercise, see friends, create something, or even meditate. Just something to get out of your head. Over-thinking really only makes your feelings weird and can totally kill your love buzz.
"Who's The Boss," Antoinette
"Daytime, nightime, anytime's the right time."
Antoinette is The Boss because she knows to stay present, ready, and open in order to rise to the demand of any given moment. No question that mentality extends to her love life ;)
In "Who's the Boss," she reminds us there's no such thing as perfect timing. The key is to keep your eyes, mind, and heart open so as to not miss or overlook something special just because you were too busy staring at your own feet.
Somebody special can come along whenever, so always come correct like Antoinette.
"Brothers Ain't Shit," Roxanne Shante
"Stop smilin', I know all you wanna do is hit. And I really don't give a shit."
Avoid those players who are only after one thing. They're slimy (and ain't sh*t).
But seriously, somebody purely out to get a piece with whoever they can likely won't be the best lover. And hooking up with them probably won't be the best experience. Not all sexual encounters need to be cosmic lovemaking, but you want your partner to treat you like a person and not a piece of meat.
Roxanne Shante calls scuzzballs out and so should we all!
